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Make the right decision at every critical moment and move forward without regrets.
Make smart divorce decisions.
Strategic divorce coaching to protect your family, finances, and future. Build the life you want.
“Susan was whip-smart, deeply knowledgeable, strategic, and an outstanding communicator. But what set her apart was her humanity.” — I.E.W.
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FORMER PROSECUTOR, TRIAL LAWYER, MSNBC SENIOR LEGAL ANALYST | CERTIFIED DIVORCE COACH | CERTIFIED DIVORCE MEDIATOR
Divorce forces major life decisions when you're least equipped to think clearly.
Are you tired of
- Lying awake, terrified that one wrong move will cost you everything?
- Not knowing who to trust or what to do next?
- Making decisions from a place of fear or overwhelm?
- Watching legal fees climb while you're still in the dark?
- Walking into critical meetings without anyone truly in your corner?
You deserve steady, strategic guidance when the stakes are highest.
Protect Your Children and Finances
Build a strategy that puts your children, your finances, and your privacy, first.
Restore Your Sanity
Feel grounded and in control for the first time since this started.
Our Heroic Divorce & Relationship Coaching Services
At SUSANFILAN Heroic Divorce, we provide compassionate and strategic coaching for people navigating divorce, relationship crisis, and the work of rebuilding a life that feels like their own. Our services include:
Divorce Strategy Sessions
Personalized one-on-one coaching to help you understand your legal landscape, financial options, and plan your next steps with confidence.
Emotional Support & Resilience
Dedicated sessions to navigate a divorce with strength, process grief, manage stress, and rebuild your emotional well-being.
Co-Parenting Guidance
Practical tools and strategies for healthy communication and collaboration with your former partner, always prioritizing your children.
Post-Divorce Rebuilding
Empowerment coaching for marriage after divorce – developing new goals, cultivating a positive mindset, and stepping into the next chapter.
Relationship Serenity™
Coaching for people in recovery facing a relationship crisis. Protect your sobriety, gain clarity, and move forward with peace of mind, whether you stay, leave, or rebuild.
Learn More →Speaking Engagements & Workshops
Susan, as a keynote speaker, shares her personal experience and professional insights through conferences, workshops, and presentations for organizations, communities, and events where courage, resilience, and growth are the focus.
Learn More →Our mission is to empower you to transform your divorce into a journey of growth and empowerment, helping you emerge stronger and more resilient.
I've been on both sides of the courtroom.
Now I'm on yours.
Call me first, before you call a lawyer
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I know what it feels like when every decision carries the weight of your entire future.
You want to protect your finances and your children.
To do that, you need a smart strategy that protects what matters most. The problem is divorce forces major life decisions at the very moment clear thinking is hardest. Pressure builds. Emotions take over. And the fear that one wrong move could cost you everything makes it impossible to see straight.
You deserve steady, strategic guidance when the stakes are highest.
I've spent three decades inside the legal system as a prosecutor, trial lawyer, and family law attorney. I've also been through a high-conflict divorce myself. That perspective shapes how I guide every client, and how we approach every decision. Together, we’ll protect what matters most and build a future you feel good about.
Here’s how my approach is unique
« She helped me understand the law and the process clearly, while also helping me stay grounded enough to make well informed and carefully considered decisions. » — I.E.W.
Ready to stop reacting and start making decisions you'll be proud of? Book a call today.
M.A., J.D., LL.M.
Triple-credentialed
30+
Years Inside the Legal System as a prosecutor, Trial Lawyer, & MSNBC Analyst
Certified Divorce Coach
Certified Divorce Mediator
Here’s how it works
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Tell me what you're facing. We'll assess your situation, identify what's at stake, and map out a clear path forward so you know exactly where you stand and what to do next.
Move Forward With Confidence
We build a smart, personalized strategy around your family, your finances, and your future. You'll be ready for every critical moment before it arrives.
Protect Your Children, Finances and Privacy
Come through your divorce knowing every decision was made with clarity, courage, and strategy. The hardest chapter is behind you and the next one is yours to write.
“I went from completely overwhelmed to understanding exactly what was happening and what to do about it.”
Divorce can be rough. Really rough at times, for so many reasons. Susan understood that from the start.
As my divorce coach, she was whip smart, deeply knowledgeable, strategic, and an outstanding communicator. But what set her apart was her humanity.
She helped me understand the law and the process clearly, while also helping me stay grounded enough to make well informed and carefully considered decisions.
With Susan in my corner, I felt steadier, clearer, and better protected than I would have on my own. She brings a rare combination of wisdom, legal judgment, and genuine care.”
I.E.W.
My life was in a state of enormous flux and I was struggling to stay afloat. Susan met with me, connected me with the right people, and genuinely changed the course of what I was facing. My life has changed so much as a result of working with her.
I hired Susan during a highly complex and hostile divorce. She translated the legal process into clear, actionable terms and gave me strategic insight into how the local family court actually works. I went from feeling completely overwhelmed to understanding exactly what was happening and what to do about it. Her coaching had an enormous impact of the final resolution of my case.
Susan listens carefully, gets to the heart of every issue, and approaches the most difficult situations with clarity and strategy. Anyone who works with Susan will benefit from her wisdom, strength, and compassion.
I wanted to share my experience working with Susan during my stressful divorce. Despite the challenges of my career and caring for three young children, Susan provided immediate reassurance and essential resources for our emotional wellbeing and frankly, my mental health. I was a wreck when I first walked into Susan's office. She supported me throughout the entire process, even attending my final court date for emotional support.
The Heroic Divorce™ Method
Make the smartest decisions of your life when the stakes are high.
Don't stay trapped between fear and fury when a clear path forward exists.
Together, we'll turn chaos into clarity because you deserve to be the hero of this story
4 ways I can support you
Your first move matters more than any move that follows
1H Session
The Smartest First Move You'll Make
One hour with Susan. Her full attention and thirty years of legal experience, entirely focused on you.
One hour. Complete focus. Yours.
1 hour | In Person $500· Zoom · Tel
It's the smartest money you'll invest, and for most people, it's the moment they realize the 90-day Heroic Divorce Method™ isn't just a wise investment. It's a lifeline.
Tier 1
Strategic Divorce Coaching
For clients who want experienced guidance through the biggest decisions of their divorce.
You will never make an important move without thinking it through first.
Tier 2
Strategic Divorce Coaching + Direct Access
For clients who want trusted guidance as their situation develops, not just at scheduled moments. You will never face a surprise alone.
Tier 3
Private Divorce Advisory + Full access
For clients in complex, high-stakes, or high-conflict divorces who need a strategic advisor embedded in their process. This is not coaching from the sidelines. I am in the room. Investment:
Book your 1H Heroic Divorce Strategy Call
If you are navigating divorce and want to make smart decisions, not reactive ones, this call is for you.
During this 1 hour session, e will look at where you are, what is at stake, and what your clearest next move should be.
I hold a limited number of these each week. If this is the right moment for you, reserve your time below.
« With Susan in my corner, I felt steadier, clearer, and better protected than I would have on my own. She brings a rare combination of wisdom, legal judgment, and genuine care. »
— I.E.W.
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FAQ
What is a divorce coach, and why do I need one if I have a lawyer?
The American Bar Association defines divorce coaching as "a flexible, goal-oriented process designed to support, motivate, and guide people going through divorce to help them make the best possible decisions for their future."
A divorce coach handles you, the person inside the process who has to make critical decisions under painful conditions, while maintaining the composure and dignity this transition demands.
A divorce coach works alongside the legal process, so it doesn't cost years of your life you can never get back, legal bills don't pilfer your legacy, and your children don't absorb damage that cannot be undone.
A divorce coach is not your attorney, therapist, or financial advisor. There is a huge gap between your lawyer and your life. That is my job.
Do I still need a lawyer if I work with you?
Yes. Your lawyer handles your case. I handle you. I am not your attorney and this is not legal advice. What I bring is 30+ years inside the legal system — as a prosecutor, a trial lawyer, and someone who knows how courts think and how opposing counsel operates. That knowledge makes you a better client and helps you avoid the decisions that may cost you the most.
What if my spouse is being difficult or hostile?
That is exactly when this work matters most. High-conflict situations require a different level of strategic thinking — and a different level of composure. I have spent decades inside adversarial proceedings. I know how the other side thinks, what tends to escalate, and what tends to resolve. You do not have to match their energy. You have to be strategic.
How long does coaching typically take?
It depends on where you are in the process and what you need. I work in 90-day commitments, renewable based on where you are and what you still need. Some clients work with me for a focused 90-day period. Others engage for the full arc of their divorce.
Do you work with both spouses or just one?
Only one. You. If your spouse wants this kind of support, they are encouraged to hire their own coach.
What won't you do?
I will not provide legal advice, appear in court on your behalf, or serve as a witness in any legal proceeding. I am your coach — not your counsel, not your therapist, not a character witness. The boundaries are clear because they protect you.